Friday, November 27, 2009

Why the fuss over 6th formers + dating young teachers if consentual?

Many of my mates in mid to late teens and early twenties dated each other and were very happy for a while like anyone else and the girls was not being exploited or all innocent or any of that tripe and they are usually friends first so no preditory acts.



So can't see what the problem is other then say grading. Simply solution, someone else marks her work. Or swap classes.



Other then that if, it adheres to all the principles of a normal happy relationship.



ie consentual, caring, happy, in love etc etc... Everyone else should f off.



(this is if the girls(usually but would apply to guys) is in mid to late teens ie 15 1/2 upwards and the teacher is pretty well under 30.



Also taking into account the teachers relationship history...



Ie the tell girls anything to get in their knickers and get them drunk then dump them.



or simply always shy and no good with girls with no history of long term relationships and maybe less dates then the girl in question.



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Many people, male/female (inc teenagers) often develop feelings for 'authority' figures and it is up to the 'authority' figures to be professional and to step back from a relationship.



From personal exp. as a 17 yr old seeing an older bloke 25 I thought I was so mature. now when I look back I see the relationship for what it was and I think that although I enjoyed it initially (until fell pregnant and he left), I was definitely 'coerced' by him. Why would a man want to go out with a 'child'? And I am sorry but at 17 you still ARE a child, you might think acting like an adult, doing adult things makes you an adult, IT DOESN'T, life experience/time makes you a grown up.



If a 6th former/teacher want a relationship all they have to do is wait until the pupil finishes school, if teacher cant wait then I'd question their real motives.



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There is nothing wrong with it! People should mind their own business. So long as no one is getting hurt there is no problem.
Whether or not the student's results are affected is only part of the story. The problem is that the system needs to be *seen* to be fair, and if there's any hint of a conflict of interest, then there will be suspicion about that student's academic performance.



I note your reply to my answer, but that may not satisfy your detractors. The fact that you are involved with a member of academic staff will place suspicion on both of you, no matter what steps you have taken.
First - It is illegal



Secondly - It is immoral



Thirdly - It is unprofessional



A 16 year old may date an 18 year old, or any other combination of ages, assuming this is NOT a relationship between a person in authority and a teenager. I don't imagine any parent would ever condone a twenty something having ant type of "relationship" with their child outside of a professional one.



The whole situation of a person in authority and another younger child, teen, etc. is inherently wrong. How can one not see that? Adults who take advantage of their position are as sick as any other person who commits an immoral/indecent act. Children are not capable of making sound judgements and "consenting" to anything such as you are speaking. That is why they are protected by law. Without knowing your age, I know you will see the wisdom of such laws as you grow into adulthood.

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